www.mygreyhaven.blogspot.com
Hi, I'm Kara. I'm a wife and a mom. My husband and I pastor a church we planted over a decade ago. I lead worship, I love woodworking and creating and have a small business (My Grey Haven). Those are just a few things about me and like we all know there is a lot more that social media, blogs, and sadly even our closest family and friends will never know. Life is hard, like really hard. I have walked this earth 37 years ( I'm pretty sure, age got hard to remember after 30) and I have seen a lot, felt a lot, been disappointed a lot wanted to quit a lot, started over a lot, regretted a lot. You get it, we all have. I am learning that comparison, as once famously quoted, is the thief of joy no matter the end of the pendulum we are on. Some people have it worse, some better. I feel like I have talked about this a lot this last year because I think it has blocked me from really healing most of my life. What I am coming to terms with is that someone will always have it worse and someone will always have it better or at least, if nothing else, from our perspective, which we know is our reality, like it or not. Why do we do this ? Why is this usually somewhere in the forefront of our mind, whether we consciously know it or admit to it? I think it can be a way for us to avoid dealing with what is really going on and let God, Who I believe is the only one who can truly heal us, do His best work. If someone has it better, we have an excuse to feel bad for ourselves and make up reasons why we are the way we are or why we do the things we do. If someone is worse than us then we shouldn't feel bad about where we are at because, after all, it could be worse.
Does this sound familiar ? I'm so tired of living out of this thought process. God certainly doesn't see you in this comparison game. He made you, uniquely you. He didn't plan for the bad things to happen to you. I'm going to shock some but He didn't even allow them. Can you imagine a loving parent saying I am not going to kill you in an accident but I will allow for it or I am not going to give you cancer or heart disease but I will allow it to happen or I won't make you live in poverty but I think it will be good for you. If you will honestly answer this, all religious ideas aside, you would most definitely say no, of course not. Well God said in Matthew 7:11 So if you, despite being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him. With that truth in mind, we all still have questions as to why bad things happen. We know there is an enemy seeking to devour us. Scripture tells us that it is his main objective; to steal, kill, and destroy. We also make bad decisions. It's not always the same answer but you have to know, God only has good for you. James 1:17 Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. This truth has changed everything for me. I know that I will spend the rest of my life and eternity letting that truth sink into my heart and being but we all have to start somewhere. I won't keep you much longer on this first blog but I think we can learn to stop comparing and start healing when we let God be as good as He really is to us and marinate in the love that He has for us, me, right now. The me that feels insecure at times, wishes I had done things differently, wishes I had been a better mom, yesterday or last week. We all have these thoughts. We all struggle. Some of our struggles might look way bigger or way smaller whether it's in our eyes or in the world's eyes but God is asking you to take His hand and let Him tell you who He thinks you are. He loves you and He wants more than anything, to see you walk in His goodness. He has good things for you and me and We are going to see them. Comments
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